A typical question many guys ask is
The problem is that you are choosing the worst words for this, you don't convince anyone to like you, that is just silly, and very desperate I may add.
Would you be convinced if a girl you simply didn't like for whatever reasons (maybe she is fat, or ugly, or old, or whatever) tried to convince you that you should date her? how? It's very unlikely.
You cannot use reason or logic to convince someone to like you. If you have to convince someone that you are good enough for her, it's because you are not.
If you were good enough, she wouldn't need you to convince her, she would just think you are good enough. The same way she doesn't need to convince you that she is good enough for you, because you just know she is.
So, does that mean that everything is lost? that it's just about luck whether someone likes you or not? Not exactly.
You see, the reason you like her is because she has qualities that you find yourself attracted to, maybe it beauty; maybe it's her personality, her sense of humour, or her fashion sense or whatever.
That's why you know she is good enough because she has things you appreciate in girls that make you feel attracted to her
If she doesn't like you, it's because you are not showing her that you have qualities that she appreciates in guys that make her feel attractive towards you.
So, how can you know what those qualities are, you may ask now, and it's a fair question. But the thing you have to understand is that you don't change yourself for something that this girl likes, you change yourself to grow up and be proud yourself of your own accomplishments, for example:
- You don't learn to be funny, only because girls like funny guys. You learn to be funny, because you want to make others feel good because that makes you happy and fulfilled.
- You don't go to the gym and get a 6 pack and some muscles, only because girls like fit guys. You workout because you want to prove to yourself that if you put your mind to it you can accomplish big goals, that not everyone can.
- You don't work for money in a job you hate, because you think girls like guys who have money. You work because you have a mission in life to make it a bit better with your skills, and earning money is just an indirect consequence of having a life mission, and not just a goal in itself.
- You don't play the guitar because you heard this girl likes guys who play guitar. You play guitar if you really feel like guitar is your passion which fulfils you and makes you proud of the music that comes from you playing it, and which you’s play even if girls didn't like it.
The point I am trying to make is that, just like she doesn't change herself for you, and you happen to like her for what she is, you don't change yourself for her, because you think then she will like you for that.
You only change if you think that you want to change, because the way you are now doesn't fulfil you or satisfy you or make you proud of who you are.
So, for example if you feel like your life is boring and a girlfriend would solve it, then you need to change not just to attract the girl but because you need to know what you can offer her.
If you have nothing valuable to offered to enjoy and seek a girl to have something valuable for you to enjoy, then she will probably not like you, because why would she? She has no reasons to.
In that case you need to change and become an attractive guy who has a life and things that makes him proud of himself.
And only then when you have those things that make you proud of yourself and your accomplishments, it's when you go for the girl you like.
Now, at that point you are not gonna try to convince her to like you or give you an opportunity, at that point you are now offering her the opportunity to be with you, and if she doesn't accept the opportunity, it's her loss.
Because you simply don't need to share what you have to offer her, if it's not appreciated.
“Do not cast pearls into swine” because the swine won't appreciate how valuable pearls are, so it's pointless to try to convince the swine.
But of course if you don't see yourself as valuable as a pearl, and you have nothing to offer her as valuable as her pearls, then it's unlikely she will want your offer.
The reason she doesn't like you is because she doesn't think you have anything as valuable as her pearls to offer her.
So you cannot convince her that if you offer her shit, she should accept and exchange her pearls for your shit.
The only way you can show her that you have something valuable to offer her is by changing your offer, in other words become more valuable by doing accomplishing things that honestly make you proud.
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