How To Accept Yourself And Improve Your Confidence

Many people's questions when it comes to picking up girls are? Does size matter? Do girls think Daygame is creepy? Do girls like small guys? Do girls like fat guys? Do look matter? Do white girls like Asians boys? Is it ok to do Daygame in "x" place without people thinking I'm creepy? she doesn't invest much or she doesn't smile, am I doing something wrong? I am very old, can I still do Daygame and succeed with young girls? Am I too young for her? I have this weird quality, will girls like it? She says I'm not her type or that she doesn't like something about me, how do I fix it? I cannot approach because I am too scared of what she might think or anyone looking at me might think. She has turned down a rich and better looking guy than me, do I have any chance with her?

This type of questions come from the belief that you are not good enough for a girl in other words they come from your own insecurity... The belief that she is out of your league, because society standards and expectations says she should be... Expectations that your ego has accepted as the norm... The main thing you need to solve before attempting to attract any girl, is your own self-confidence. You have to accept all your flaws, you have to accept that you cannot be perfect, that no one in this world is perfect and that you don't need to be perfect. Accept that everyone will judge you and that's something you cannot control. Even if you think you are avoiding being judge, you are probably still being judge, you know why? Because if I see you I will judge you, I judge everyone I see whether I want it or not, whether that's good or not, but It doesn't really matter because you will never know for sure if I am judging you. My life goes on and your life too, no matter how many bad things I thought to myself about you.

That thing called ego, will suffer sure, ego will hate being ridiculed, ego will hate being criticized, ego will hate getting rejected. But you are not your ego, ego is not what defines you as a person. Ego is not your friend. Ego is what makes you unhappy. Ego is what makes you suffer, ego acts like your friend but in reality it is your own worst enemy. Ego is what makes you doubt in yourself, because ego believes you are better off in your comfort zone. Ego is like an invisible small red demon in your shoulder that tries to bring you down.

Learn to like yourself, learn to crack jokes about that flaw you have, if you are Chinese, learn to laugh at those stereotypes you have, crack jokes about your own penis, if you are short, learn to make fun of your height, if you are older than her, make fun of how you could be her father, if you are fat make fun of how she will have to be on top if she doesn't wanna start to do weightlifting on bed. If she doesn't like your pants, tell her that no matter how much she insists you are not going to pull them out. 

Make a list of all the flaws you have or all the stereotypes you are suppose to have and start looking for possible jokes you can use to your advantage while doing Daygame. This list will also help you to accept yourself. True confidence starts when you totally accept yourself. If you totally accept yourself, you will believe in yourself and if you believe in yourself, the girl will too and therefore you wil succeed. However if you do not believe in yourself, the girl will obviously not believe in you and therefore you will not succeed.

Are Looks Essential To Be Successful With Women?

Some people think that you have to be good looking or otherwise you are not gonna have success with women.
Looks matter because:
If you are good looking girls are generally going to react better to your approaches, because despite what you might have heard, everyone like eye candy. I have seen ugly people approach girls and the general initial reaction was bad and I have seen good-looking guys approach girls and the general initial reaction was good.
Having a pretty face, pretty eyes, strong muscles those things attract women and they compliment you for it, so it definitely helps your game.
Being rich also helps, it really does... But the kind of girls you will attract are not really worth your money. They are gold diggers, girls that don't like you but your money.

When your looks don't matter:
Being fit, good looking all those things are great and can make girls be attracted to you, but only initially. If you have lived with girls, you have probably heard them say a phrase similar to this. "He was cute until he opened his mouth." This means that attraction isn't something that is always there, it can evaporate like nothing. So even though being good-looking is great for attracting girls, that doesn't mean the job is done, you have to have a personality that matches your look. That's why you can see good looking guys who are single and never get laid or if they do, it is with really ugly desperate girls.
Being ugly can have bad initial reactions, but that initial reaction can be changed when you start talking, that's why you can see really ugly fuckers having success with good looking women. Because they just know what to do to get them attracted.

Things like your vibe, your intelligence, your hobbies, your lifestyle, your body language, your social skills, are the most essential thing to be successful with women. But of course a guy who has all these things plus is also good looking, rich, and fit will always be more successful than a guy who just has good social skills. But I repeat, it's not essential.

What to do and say if she says she has a boyfriend?

What if I told you, you should not go away just because a woman said "I have a boyfriend".

What if I told you it is impossible that almost every girl you approach has a boyfriend, it just isn't, it is too much "bad luck".

Just because a woman says she has a boyfriend doesn't mean she actually does have a boyfriend or that she is happy with such boyfriend.

One common thing that everyone doing Daygame seems to have is "oh she told me she had a boyfriend so I will just let her go."

Seriously, Don't go!! It is just a test. And you might say "except when it isn't".

Sure she might have a boyfriend but you don'tt know that, and the only way to know is to keep talking to her as if she had said nothing.

You have the typical mentality of a good boy and that's why you think "oh ill try another one."

The reason a girl says she has a boyfriend is to differentiate. Girls have a lot of boys they could be with but they can't be with all of them, they have to chose the best ones.

That's why they do this test because when a guy moves on, girls just think of him as just another guy but if this same guy tries to be persistent after she has said that she has a boyfriend. Then she knows she is in front of a man who knows what he wants. She is in front of a man who offers protection, a man who is very confident and goes after what he wants no matter the difficulties.

So what can you do if she says that?

First What you should not do or say.

First: Never look disappointed. That's just needy.

Then avoid saying this:

She: "I have a boyfriend"

Me: "Don't you want another one?"

She: "I have a boyfriend"

Me: "Ok Bye"

Instead stay and say this:

She: "I have a boyfriend"

Me: "I think i also have one (girlfriend), but what makes you think i want something with you, why do you go so fast?"

She: "I have a boyfriend"

Me: "I love that we have just met each other and you are already telling me your problems/life, it almost feels like the next thing you are gonna tell me is that you are going to present me to your parents"

She: "I have a boyfriend"

Me: "I'm flattered that you already see me as a potential problem to your relationship, but i think you are going too fast because I just met you, so i was saying blah blah blah(change topic)"

And last I wanna leave this thing a girl said after being asked why when she was single has said she had a boyfriend:

"I've always said it when I don't find them attractive, or they are so attractive and 'up-front' that I know giving them a chance would just make me end up getting hurt so I just back off.

The trick here is that even if she doesn't find you attractive at first, if you still keep being persistent after she has told you the boyfriend excuse, she will find you more attractive. Because you have shown that you are not like the other guys who back off immediately after hearing those words and being different from most guys makes you more attractive 

Oh and one more thing even if you pass this test, she might put you another test.

The key is every time she says something along the lines that "you are wasting your time with me, boy", you don't take it as such, until she really goes, and she has to be the one going and leaving you, not the other way around: For example:

She: "haha, thats nice but i have to go"

Then you can say.

Me: "Me too, but we can still give each other 5 minutes, any was as i was telling you before"

or

She: "You are cool/funny/cute but i don't think my boyfriend is gonna like this"

Me: "I think you should give him a call and tell her that you are flirting with a crazy guy"

Never go, show her that you are chatting to her because she is attractive, but that doesn't mean you view her yet as a potential girlfriend. That's something you haven't even think of, something she doesn't deserve because you have many woman (thanks to Daygame) in your life, what makes her that special for you to want to be her boyfriend...

Just don't freaking go away when she tells you that and try what I said, although when you say those lines or something similar is better if you don't wait for her response, just keep talking changing topic

Daygame advice - Don't pretend to be gay

You don't wanna end up like this (gay bestfriend), do you?

 I know this might seem obvious, specially to those who are veterans at Daygame, but...

I had write about this because apparently some people think that by pretending to be gay they will get better responses from girls when you approach them...

And I want to remind you that girls only like MEN WHO ARE CONFIDENT WITH WHO THEY REALLY ARE!!

Girls are tired of men pretending to be someone they are not. 

By trying to appear gay, she will think you are gay and will think of you as her gay bestfriend. (Which means no sex and no nothing, just a friend)

And for those who think "no but then i will act like a heterosexual man once she is at ease" With all due respect... Do you think women are stupid? They will notice that you are now behaving in a different manner and will classify you as FAKE and ignore you.

The point of Daygame is to be honest with your intentions when you approach a girl by displaying your CONFIDENCE and your MASCULINITY. Because that's what girls like period.

Doing the opposite won't work, for the simple fact that when you meet a woman, she spends the first minute of the interaction thinking if you are boyfriend material or friend material. If you act gay at the beginning, turning your image around as someone who she wants to fuck with will be almost impossible.

Imagine if a woman approached a heterosexual woman on the street... she won't think: "Oh im gonna have lesbian sex with this girl who told me I look really nice"...

She will think "she just wants to be friends" 

If you act gay she will basically think of you as a woman and therefore will have the same reaction.

The opener is also direct so if you are a man telling her she looks hot, and at the same time you act like a gay person, she will feel this is weird and will ask you if you are gay immediately, and then what the heck will you say??? You will have to say no and then she will move on because she knows that you were lying and was trying to manipulate her.

DONT MANIPULATE WOMEN, leave that for the Pick Up Artists wannabes. 

Just be confident as a man and don't be afraid to show that you are a man. Girls will respect you more.

p.s: And seriously avoid posting tips like that, because then someone who is new to this thing and comes to this forum will actually think, "Oh my god how come Andy, and no other dating coach in the world have said this before?? Acting gay? That's great advice and it totally makes sense, i can see it working" 

And the reason they haven't is simply because it just isn't good advice"

Analysis of a text interaction after picking up a girl doing Daygame

Tuesday:

Hi, (xxxx)... yesterday was an attractive evening, although a little bit short (the interaction) you were very friendly :) Lucky me that i went to eat mandarins. (inside joke) haha it was funny to meet you.

She: Aawww, yes yes it was a pleasure to meet you, you were really nice.

Today:

Hi (xxx).. you know recently I ate an ice cream made by the hand of God! haha, it was amazing. I hope you are also a divine night.

She: HAHAHAHA thanks :D

Boy: How's the night going, any wolf man around, its full moon tonight! (Inside joke)

She: hahahahaha nooooo

Boy: I hope you are perfecting those dancing steps, what i saw the other day leaves left much to be desired. (inside joke again)

Ella: HAHAHAHAHA, i was only imitating you xD

Yo: imitating me? You didn't even move! HAHA at least you know how to move?or you just know the stick move :)

Ella: HAHAHAHAHAHA, you are so mean

Me: Tomorrow there is a party, right? the other guy has told me everything lady! you and your friend might go over there right?

She: HaHAHAHA, obviously tomorrow there is a party

Me: So what you don't invite me xP Hahaha the other guy has to tell me everything

She: HAHAHAHAHAHA I did not know if I was gonna go, I am a bit sick, but nah ill go tomorrow :)

Me: haha.... it sounds really bad, you know the best cure for your sickness?

She: GO OUT!!!! HAHAHA

Guy: YES GO OUT!! Have a good time, and dance Salsa with amazing guys called (his name), you'll recover 100 guaranteed!

She: HAHAHAHA, bad news i don't know how to dance Salsa,

Guy: Don't worry!! Stepping on feet you will learn!! HAHA just let yourself go by the emotion and everything will look  wonderful.

The bad news is... that I am not sure to that i can go there, agh :/ i am in (place) with some friends; if i try to come back tomorrow i might get there, but i don't promise anything!

She: where do you live?

Guy: You will know :) Some things about me...

(My full name) Age 20.

I like green, koalas, ice creams, pizza

I don't like, mayonese, nights without moon,

A secret never told: I loved Titanic 

You will know more when we meet, HAhA your turn :)

Ella: HAHAHAHAHAHAHA ohhhh wellll 

Guy: I don't think you understood the game... I am from (place) and the only thing i can promise is that if I suddenly appear over there, we will eat mandarins and you will lean how to dance Salsa lady! Wether you want it or not) I am gonna go, have fun :) see you.

When she said GO OUT, that's when he should have tried to set up the date. Everything he had to do is to suggest to meet, for example: "HAHA, i like your way of thinking, lets meet you me and your smile tomorrow at 20:00?"... 

Then when she asked "where he lives", he used a very long message that really had to do nothing with what she had asked (I'm referring to the message where he says I like.. I don't like... and a secret never told...). 

He gave too much information about himself for no reason killing too much intrigue and the mysterious vive. 

That kind of text would have been good if she had said that she barely knows anything about him because it would be an easy way to create connection. But he had already created enough connection with the inside jokes.

The conversation seemed good because she had made the girl laugh which is a good thing, then he had created a lot of connection by using inside jokes, but failed at the most important thing which is to set up the date and therefore the girl lose interest.

A very important thing to get more dates with girls

One thing that one should make sure to do, when you approach a girl in the street, is to make inside jokes. Inside jokes are good because it creates a connection between the two of you making it easier to get a date when you remind a girl of such joke over texts messages.

One easy way to make inside jokes is to give her some kind of nickname.

Usually I do this when she is telling me her number, i just say something like "I am gonna save you as, "Hanna, the cheerful artist" or "Jessica, the sweet" or "The strong Mary"

You give her a nickname based on the information (verbal or not verbal) that she gave you or the physical appearance that she had when you met her. If it describes her well, she will laugh when you tell her the nickname, if she prefers another nickname she will suggest another one. 

Then you should call her to make sure she gave you her real number and tell her:
"Save my number as "James the crazy guy" or "Harry the cool guy" or "Leo Hot Chocolate"

The point is that she has a nickname and she saves you with another one. 

When you text her you will stand out over all the other contacts that she has and she will immediately remember you with a smile when you text her, which is a very good thing. 

Its not the same to get a text from Harry (thinking who the heck is this Harry) than Leo Hot Chocolate because she will immediately remember you and this nicknames reminds her exactly of that good feeling that she had when she laugh when you told her to save you with such a cheesy nickname.

Remember that she is a girl and if she is pretty, she will have a very large lists of contacts of guys trying to get her attention and you need to stand out by all means.

Then when you text her you can send her a text like this:
"Remember how i memorized you in my phone?"
You will be surprised how she reacts you can use that text also if she gives you a lot of excuses when you propose a date

Conclusion: 

1 - Ask her how you want her to memorize her and if she doesn't have good imagination for a good nickname, tell her the nickname yourself and save her number.
2 - Call her or text her right there to make sure the phone number is real (By using Whatsapp you can avoid calling her, since her name and contact will suddenly be displayed in that app)
3 -And tell her to save you with a cheesy nickname.

I hope this helps you, and if anyone has good suggestions for inside jokes or good ways to beat excuses when you suggest a date, or good initial messages to text her and bring her to a positive state, feel free to post them.

How to get a date trough texts

There are three things you should do in order to get a date with a woman you met on a club, school, uni, street, coffee shop... etc

Avoid being this poor guy (This is needy)

Spark an EMOTION to catch her attention and make her reply to you

First you should send a text that sparks an emotion on her. In order words you should maker her laugh or smile through that text. In order to do so, you can send a text which tells her about your day in a exaggerated way, for example:

"I have just drink a coffee which must have been made by Gods hands" So good"

Me: I just saw a movie which reminded me of you...

She: Which one?

Me:You will probably want to hit me if i tell you...

She:Now you have to tell me!

Me: (I ignore the text for a few minutes)

She: Please... tell me!!...

Me: (Whatever movie she reminds you of)

She: Haha, why that movie?

Me: I can only tell you over a coffee, how about Wednesday afternoon.

She: Ok :)

Now that is just an example, the point is that you need to write a text that she will reply with a haha at least, if she doesn't respond with a haha, it wasn't a good text.

Create a CONNECTION to remind her of the positive things you did when you met

The second text should create a connection with her. In order words you should remind her of how you met, or what you talk about the last time you saw her that seem to made her laugh at that moment. So if you were talking about something that she found funny, remind her of that thing that she found funny. She will remember what she felt immediately and if it is positive she will be happy that you reminded her of that memory.

Example. (This was a girl who told me she hated when their flatmates were dirty and that she studies graphics design and that she draws pretty good) So i told her:

Me: I have just remember something...

She: What?

Me: A girl who hates when their flatmates are dirty, who hates when they expect her to clean after them and a person who might be talented. That and how tragic would it be not to see such person again.

She: Haha, yes you are right :)

Find out the logistics and SET UP A DATE

The third text should be the one that tries to set up a date with her. You should only try to set up a date with her if you have made her laugh through the first texts... If you don't maker her laugh and just try to set up date in the first message you will probably fail... She will come up with some bullshit excuses like. "I have to study/work/sleep" or "I am pretty busy" or in the worst case "I have a boyfriend"

Me: To be honest i felt a positive vive when i met you, lets meet each other better

She: Sure we can go out.

Me: Excellent whats your schedule look like.

She: I am free on weekend.

Cool: Let's meet on Saturday.