The first date should not be in a coffee shop, but if it is, You should only take 1 coffee and take it with you so that you can do something fun, at least for her... Something like going to the mall... If you stay in a coffee shop, this puts too much pressure on both of you and awkward silences might occur.
If there is awkward silences she will look at the clock and you will get desperate because you feel she is bored as fuck... and is just counting down the minutes till the date is over..
So even if you agree to meet at a coffee shop, when you arrive immediately tell her that you would rather go somewhere else... (Bowling, Shopping, Ice Skating on an adventure) If she she says that she doesn't have time/money, look just come and if she insist on doing the date in the coffee shop, tell her that you are gonna go because you don't want to spend time in a coffee shop because its boring for you.
Say this in a nice manner. Don't be a dick. And in fact you should go, because if you stay that means she has control over you, and you show that you are needy and that you value her more than you do yourself. Which is not attractive to her. A real man is selective, the type of man she likes is a someone who has a lot of women and knows what he wants out of life... Thats why you should make the rules, because she senses then you are a high value man which respects itself and that will not try hard to comply with her.
Don't take her to the cinema either... A date is supposed to be 2 people spending time and having fun while they talk to each other and meet each other. In the cinema you cannot talk. And no, you are not going to be able to kiss her when the kissing scene shows up. Because that only happens in Hollywood romantic comedies, not in real life, unless she is really desperate and trust me if she is pretty she is not desperate to get a kiss, because she can get a kiss at every club.
If she talks about other boys, stop her and let her know that she is boring you out. Tell her: "I barely know you and you are already telling me about your problems... I would like to take things more slowly because I am not your boyfriend"
Make sure that you are the man in control of every situation... If you guys are sitting down while taking a drink.. Sit next to her. Don't let a table stand between the two of you... You have to sit next to her, and the reason is simple. If you do not sit next to her, you will not be able to make contact, and you MUST make contact with her, you need to touch her arm when you make a point to her, you need to award her whenever she says something nice to you with a 5 hive, you need to hug her, YES HUG HER, when she says that she likes you, or she says that she is enjoying the date, or she finds you funny/attractive/cute/good-looking...
Go to different places, don't just play bowling, and then go home... Play bowling then after that, tell her that "You should go take a coffee/drink at whatever pub/shop to chill" Then take her to another different place. This should all come natural, don't tell her that you have planned to do this, then this, and after that this because it shows you are needy...
Remember: Needy = Bad
A man does what he wants, and spends time with who he wants, and how he wants... And he doesn't say sorry for doing those things. So if you want to kiss her, just do it, don't ask. Its better to say sorry than to ask for permission... If you feel that you want to kiss her, and you don't do, that you prefer to do it in the second date or third... That means you are worried that you might not see her again and do not want to screw things up... Problem is if you do not make a move, you will sooner or later be put in the friend zone, thats why you have to make a move. And i know its risky, because if she is not attracted to you, you will maybe not see her again. B
Now i am going to tell you my experience in a bad date with a hot girl and what should i have done instead...
Analysis of a mediocre boring date
So there she was, waiting for me, I had come 3 mins late (You should never arrive at a date before she does)
She said she had just arrived smiling
I don't touch her, in order words i don't give her a kiss on the cheek or a simple high when we meet (Mistake)
We start walking, and start taking about how we are doing with university and staff... (Ok, you need to create comfort to break the ice)
I tell her that i do not know where the coffee shop is (Mistake, i should have know where the fucking Coffee shop was, so that I could lead) She knows where it is, so she leads me there...
We arrive and sit in different sides of a table... (Mistake I should have sat next to her, and i knew so, but did not have the balls for some reason i thought she was gonna complain about me sitting next to her)
We talked for an 40 mins, we are not comfortable she is nice and she puts effort in talking, but for some reason i don't seem to be interested in her or at least i get bored with the topics we are talking, to make things even worst, she now has found a comfortable talk in talking about how much he dislikes her flatmate...
This might sound like a good thing that she is talking about how she dislikes a man, bit it is not... If she talks about other guy with you, there is a possibility she is attracted to her, even if she says not... And also she is talking about other guy with you!!!, You are not her gay best friend so why listen to that? BIG MISTAKE...)
Then there was a point in which in the most natural way she could, said that she had to buy some things for a girl friend of hers and i wanted to go with her...
(I thought it was a good sign considering how bad the date was developing, but it is not, by saying yes i want to go there with you, i am basically telling her that i have nothing better to do, that she is the one leading AGAIN the date, and that i am needy and desperate to spend as much time with her as possible, plus it puts me on the friend zone because a man doesn't do favors for a girl until he has had sex with her, at least a man that wants to have something with her...
But considering that i have already failed hard from the beginning I guess it did not matter. What i should have done is, look lets go this place (Bowling, Go Kart, Ice Skating) it would have saved the date, but somehow i was scared that she would say no... And so it was a big mistake.
We kept talking about boring things about our lives... And then we gave each other a hug, she was the one giving it... The date had lasted an hour and 15 minutes... And nothing happened. Not a kiss, no fun, nothing... I feel sad for her, because even though it was me who failed... She was the one suffering the causes of my fail... She just wanted to have fun and she did not because of me...
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